Do you ever forget who you are. I mean who you really are? Who am I? Really?
Sure, I know I’m a mom, a daughter, a sister, a PR consultant, a spiritual life coach, an author, an intuitive, a Hoosier (born in Indiana), woman, speaker, healer, a sexual being, actress, communicator, friend, neighbor, etc. But if I lose a title, for instance, let’s say my mother dies, which she did, am I still a daughter? Yes. To me I am. (I still talk to her ).
What if I quit my fast track career promoting world leaders, am I still a professional PR guru? Am I still a “success”?
Who am I without the title of mom or professional? Who am I when I sell my home? When I get divorced? Who am I really? What if I become disabled? Who am I now?
There is a popular saying (which I do not agree with), if you don’t have your health you don’t have anything. Well, there’s an identity! I must be healthy or I don’t have anything!
For many years, in fact, I was very chronically ill, sometimes bedridden, sometimes without hair, without the ability to feed myself. Was I still a woman, a mother, a professional? Was I still sexy? (well, if you asked me then it would have been a definitive No).
I think part of the human condition is that we often forget who we really are. We hold onto a label or two for a time, it changes as we change (jobs, partners, skills). But who we really are, that remains the same.
I challenge you to list all of who you are. And then take away a few things (i.e. a healthy person) and then who are you? I learned at the height of my illness when I couldn’t work, (therefore losing the career identity) and the sexual identity (emaciated, no hair and lots of pan and scars) but I was left with quite a few attributes and identities. I was still a spiritual being, a kind and loving woman — albeit a mother who watched and listened versus “doing” mom stuff. I suppose I might have been beautiful to someone, I did fit into a size zero which is all the rage for the models! (Wasn’t loving the hair loss and feeding tubes!)
Who I was, at my core, did not change. I certainly grew and expanded my understanding of myself. But my true self, that is constant.
In those times when we “forget” who we really are, I challenge to ask friends and family to remind you. You will be amazed at what you find out! Just tell them your life coach (me) gave you an assignment. Have them email it to you. (My sister told me a negative attribute was that I was dramatic and a positive attribute was that I was dramatic. Funny!)
And see who you think you really are. What I do know is that there is NO ONE like you on the entire planet of nearly 7 billion people. Not one. Isn’t that amazing?
So, who are you? You know. And I’m here if you need help remembering.
As always I am available for private coaching sessions, It is my pleasure to help you remember who you really are and live the life your soul desires.